My melancholic lullaby project is still ongoing. It started in 2013 when I was gifted a ukulele for my birthday. I had been composing songs on the piano before, but this new instrument opened up my creativity in a totally different way. Unlike the piano, I did not know how to play the ukulele, which allowed me to approach my music composition more playfully and less inhibited.
Additionally, the position of the small ukulele closely to my body made me create a tender-like relationship to the instrument – holding it like a baby, close to my heart and chest – and I slowly started to regard my songs as lullabies. The lullaby format also helped me conceptualize my songs as tender musings aimed at a multiplicity of love objects.
I regarded the songs as vessels in which I could poor out my intense affects. Following Spinoza, these affects – unlike emotions – are hard to put into words. The ukulele helps with this, as does my use of non-discursive scat, borrowed from my jazz vocal training.
When in 2015 I began reading about all the psychoanalytic researchers  who describe deep connections or tender intersubjectivity with musical and rhythmical jargon like “affect attunement,” “rhythmicity,” and “communicative musicality,” while always referring to the mother-infant relationship as the paradigm of deep connections, my intuition became theoretically verified: Lullabies are the vehicle par excellence for intersubjective tenderness.
Vocally, I am inspired by the idiosyncratic female voices of Björk, Meredith Monk, Joanna Newsom, Jenny Hval and Betty Carter. Like them, I aim to create haunting soundscapes with my voice exploring simultaneously the soft and the abject. In doing so, I try to again undo tenderness of its wholesome connotations, and instead represent how it vacillates from intimacy to despair. As a singer, I aim to become-tender and become-intense through the performance of my songs. And I hope to induce the same reaction in my listeners.
This melancholic lullaby project is part of my tender activism. Its aspiration is to undo the infantile and feminine connotations around lullabies and tenderness. I am skeptic of this infantilization and gendering and read it as phallic ideologies in favor of the hegemonic understanding of adult subjects as non-tender and invulnerable. Here in the tender context, sonically co-created between me and the audience, it is allowed and safe to temporarily fall apart and become intense.
 Stern, Sandler, Malloch and Threvarthen
 Irigaray, Bersani and Berlant
 Deleuze and Guattari